Heal separation/attachment anxiety so you can enjoy relationships again without constant fear

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Heal separation/
attachment anxiety after loss so you can enjoy relationships again without constant fear

NEUROSCIENCE-BASED COACHING TO TRANSFORM SEPARATION ANXIETY INTO HEALTHY CONFIDENCE

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Hi lovely. I’m Jelena, a neuroscience-based coach specialising in attachment and separation anxiety.

I help women who've experienced loss (ex: sudden abandonment, betrayal, absent parents, or even death) to rebuild trust in themselves, relationships, and life.

Today I live in my dream country (Spain), I am in the healthiest relationship with my partner, and trust myself completely.

Ten years ago, none of those things were true.

The Full Story

My partner of 7 years disappeared into prison.

No warning. No goodbye. Just... gone.

The next man I loved drowned.

I developed PTSD so severe I couldn't sleep for 4 years. My nervous system was stuck in permanent threat mode. Every goodbye felt permanent. Every relationship felt stressful. Love became synonymous with anxiety.

Therapists gave me breathing exercises, and told me to create vision boards. You can imagine that none of this helped.

Nobody gave me what I actually needed: an understanding of how trauma rewires the nervous system, and a path to rewire it back.

And so 5 different therapists and 1 very expensive hypnotherapist (I know!) later, with the last resort of hope that I had in me, I turned into coaching.

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How I Healed

Through a combination of:

→ Coaching - having a guide who helped me rewire my attachment patterns systematically

→ Byron Katie's "The Work" - learning to question thoughts instead of believing them automatically

→ Neuroscience education - understanding neuroplasticity and how the brain can change

→ Consistent practice - doing the daily work of retraining my nervous system

It took time. It wasn't linear. But it was possible.

What I Do Now

I take everything I learned from my own healing journey and use it to guide other women through theirs.

I work with women who either:

  • Have experienced traumatic loss or betrayal

  • Panic when partners don't respond immediately

  • Sabotage relationships because love feels dangerous

  • Are anxious, hypervigilant and not fully present in their own lives

  • Have tried traditional therapy but the fear persists

  • Are exhausted from trying to control everything to avoid being hurt again

What makes my approach different:

  • I'm not a therapist who read about attachment trauma in a textbook.

  • I'm someone who lived it, healed it, and now teaches others the exact process I used.

  • I combine neuroscience, thought work, and nervous system regulation to create lasting change—not just coping strategies.

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My Philosophy:

Your past does not have to dictate your future. Your anxiety is not who you are.

After a traumatic event, your brain creates a protection mechanism: "If I stay vigilant, I can prevent this pain from happening again."

But you can't prevent loss by controlling everything. You can only exhaust yourself trying.

Real healing happens when you teach your nervous system:

→ Safety isn't found in certainty - it's found in trusting yourself to handle uncertainty

→ Love doesn't always equal loss - your past doesn't dictate your future

→ You can be vulnerable without being destroyed

→ Peace is your natural state, not something you have to earn

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Why I Do This Work

Because I know what it's like to lose yourself completely trying to prevent abandonment.

I know what it's like to feel broken beyond repair.

To envy others, who are happy and healthy

And I know what it's like to heal.

To sleep through the night again.

To love without fear.

To trust yourself so deeply that you move to a new country, start your own business, feel blessed and open to life even without a plan. You just KNOW you'll be okay.

That's not just "managing anxiety." That's a complete nervous system transformation.

And it's exactly what I want for you!

  • "Within 6 weeks, the constant panic had quieted"

    ★★★★★

    Before working with Jelena, I'd spiral into panic every time my boyfriend didn't text back for hours. I'd tried therapy for general anxiety, but this specific fear still stayed. Even though I didn’t actually lose someone badly, I was just anxious as a person, I thought.

    I'll admit I was skeptical about coaching - would it really be worth the investment? But within 6 weeks, the constant panic had quieted. I could go hours without checking my phone. What a relief! Now I can focus on my own things and I still continue doing the exercises she gave me to help with other things.

    I would highly recommend this program to any woman who wants to feel amazing in love and life!

    —Polina, 32

  • "I finally feel like myself again."

    ★★★★★

    I came to Jelena as a shell of who I used to be. I'd spent so many years saying yes when I meant no, making myself small to keep everyone happy and after having two kids I just didn’t prioritise myself anymore. Jelena showed me that people-pleasing wasn't kindness, she taught me how to rewire the thought patterns that made me believe I had to earn love by trying to make everyone happy.

    I started saying No without guilt spiraling for days. I spoke up to my husband about what I actually needed instead of being angry at him. And the most shocking part for me? My marriage got BETTER, not worse.

    I finally feel like myself again. Thank you!!!

    —Maria, 41

  • "For the first time in my life, I finally feel in control of my wellbeing"

    ★★★★★

    Before working with Jelena, I was always so anxious in relationships. One of my boyfriends cheated and I was always scared that others will do the same.

    What made Jelena’s approach different was deeply understanding my anxiety and my experience. I learnt A LOT about myself, and about what was taught to me growing up. I am from Eastern Europe and growing up I constantly heard that one of the most important things in a woman's life is getting a guy. Now I see how ridiculous that is and how little I allowed myself to be.

    For the first time in my life, I finally feel in control of my wellbeing and happinessand I see myself differently. I think that every woman who wants to feel good about herself should work with Jelena.

    —Sarah, 34

My Credentials

  • ICF Certified Coach

  • Specialized training in trauma-informed coaching

  • 10+ years of personal experience healing complex PTSD and attachment trauma

  • Extensive study of neuroscience, neuroplasticity, and nervous system regulation

  • Trained in Byron Katie's "The Work"

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But honestly? My real credential is this:

I've walked the path I'm asking you to walk.

I know every twist, every setback, every breakthrough.

And I know the way through.

Ready to Heal?

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If you're tired of managing anxiety and ready to actually heal it...

If you're done making yourself small to avoid abandonment...

If you want to love without fear and sleep through the night...

Let me show you how.

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